No matter what you do in your everyday life to make things easier, you are always going to encounter something you don’t like doing. It’s an inevitable part of life, and as annoying as it is, you will always find something that is hard to deal with. Luckily for you, this is a normal thing to experience.
The natural reaction may be to flee from these situations. After all, you may have a back up plan that means you don’t actually have to face these difficulties. Just run from them to the next choice, until you face another challenge and run again.
But maybe you don’t feel like running either. Maybe these challenges just fuel your desire to succeed even more. These are the kinds of things I want to discuss in this article. What things should you do and consider when faced with difficult situations?
Assess Your Mistakes
If you walk into a situation where things don’t turn out the way you were hoping for, use this as a moment of reflection. What factors may have caused this to go off track? Is there something you could tweak the next time you try it?
Try to come back at it from an objective view point instead of a subjective viewpoint. This means that instead of looking at the emotions and feelings behind it, review the facts of what happened and what needed to happen to make things work.
The hardest bit can be disconnecting your feelings from it, especially if you feel that the success is tied to your self worth. It’s easy to fall into that trap, but remember that the next action you take can be an even more defining moment of your character than a momentary blip.
Once you stop yourself to look at the things you can do differently, you start to adapt for the better. It’s a way of highlighting the things you need to work on to step up and get to the next level.
Return With A Fresh Attitude
After you find the moment to assess your actions, your ideas to find improvement, you must come back to the situation at hand with a new level of motivation. To do this, you need to be well rested before hand, as this is very good for your mental health.
The more sleep you get, the better your brain is likely to perform. With this in mind, you’ll know that a healthy brain is going to perform better, particularly during those moments where you must stop and think very quickly about your next plan of action.
It’s also important to pace yourself out and not spend too long on the same situation. Without that break, your brain will burn itself out and you’ll no longer be effective in your intentions.
I think the hardest thing to face when doing something difficult is not giving up when you feel like it. If you’ve done your best to give yourself a break between your efforts, then make sure you find ways to keep at it.
Just imagine putting your efforts to a halt completely. If you’ve already put half the effort in to make it work, and there has been genuine progress, then what would stopping it do? It wouldn’t go any further than where you’re at, and you can’t get any better without continuing something that takes practice.
Even if it means doing it in shorter bursts, then coming back to it. The main thing is not to give up if it’s something that you really want to do well in and accomplish!
Ask for Advice
When you understand what you need to do, and come back to the task again, make sure that you get any help that you can get to make things easier for you. For instance, you might have a superior or someone who is doing exactly what you’re doing. Ask them how they’ve dealt with the same issues, have they prioritized different tasks ahead of others?
And don’t feel like you only have to ask one person for advice, just because they are at the top of the hierarchy in their game. It’s true that it could be a good indicator of their abilities, but one point of view might not satisfy the path you’re taking to success.
Listen to a variety of people and get a bit of everyone’s advice together, and form an opinion of your own about the best course you should take. This is the best way to find a solution that you can use for the future, and it’s the best way to hone your problem solving abilities. Before long you’ll be an independent thinker of great ideas!
Be Proud of Little Victories
This is easier said than done if you’re someone who doesn’t easily give yourself a pat on the back. You must remember to be proud of yourself, even if you manage to start doing one thing on the list of many.
Because if you’ve managed to accomplish anything on that list, then you are on the right path. It means that you are overcoming whatever fears, uncertainties or concerns about the task and you have got to the end and achieved something. And for that you should be proud!
And the way I like to think of situations that might be out of my control is like this: whether it’s good or bad, it’s already what it is, so why should you stress any more about it? Just be glad of the things you can control and improve within your power.
Have an End Goal
A motivating point; an end goal, this part is what you live for.
It can be a big dream, like becoming your own boss, becoming the manager, or finally getting to do something as a career full time. This dreams are great to have as all your little actions between will make up the bigger picture, and you can remind yourself on a daily basis how much you want that goal.
But having a little goal in between can be just as effective. Say you’re having a tough week, and the aim is to finish the week and treat yourself once you’ve done all the work. Maybe a shopping spree on Saturday, or a meal out. What ever it is, it can be a great way to get yourself past those checkpoints to make sure you do what you must do.
These little things tie in with congratulating yourself on a regular basis and keeping yourself motivated. As long as these rewards are truly rewards, and they’re things you don’t give yourself everyday, then you’ll feel the true benefits of this system.
When you face difficult situations, I think the best thing to do is to give it a try and do your best. I’ve personally spent the past few years in my job transitioning in my promotion, from being the regular worker to joining the management team. This was a big step for me as I was naturally very introverted. I’ve learnt to listen to my experienced managers’ advice, organize my time more effectively at work, and most of all deal with everyone that I work with, balancing orders with rewards. And at the end of the day, this has been the most rewarding experience for my self development, and I couldn’t be more grateful for it.