Why is it important to be in touch with how you’re feeling? I want to explore this idea today because a normal part of everyday life includes facing the facts, pretty or ugly.
When you’re having a bad day, it can be easy to have a moan about it then keep doing it. It’s also just as easy to say nothing as well. If you take a moment to do some self-reflection, you might find it easier to grow and develop in the face of daily challenges.
Understanding the Roots
The first step is obviously identifying the issues. Is it work related? Home related? Or does it feel like all these things?
Not understanding the root of what you’re feeling can make it harder to pull yourself out of the bad times. By seeing how situations affect your mood, you can also identify the factors that improve your mood too. So there are many good reasons to acknowledge what you’re feeling.
For instance, if you find that every time you prepare a well cooked meal it makes you happy, then you know that’s a great thing to do or surround yourself with if you’re feeling down. On the flip side, if you realize that every time you watch a horror movie, your happiness levels drop, then recognize that you need to avoid that, and maybe read and absorb material about cooking!
I’ve been thinking a lot about the things that affect my moods recently, and finding even the littlest things that do and don’t work for your emotions is pretty crucial in finding an emotional balance.
Taking Note of Your Likes and Dislikes
As much as this seems like such a simple thing, it’s surprising that you might have to write a list of your likes and dislikes in the first place.
You could either do this by simply writing down a list that you can refer to if you’re struggling to feel grounded, or even start journaling it. Finding a method to see all the things that trigger you positively and negatively can help remind you of which direction to steer.
This is true when you’re feeling particularly down. In those moments, objective thinking can be a lot harder, so having a list can really do the thinking for you. Plus, it works out well and can double as a gratitude list (definitely think about reasons you should practice gratitude.) You likes list can also be your ‘things you’re thankful for list’.
Let Yourself Go Through the Motions
The biggest part of understanding your emotions is to allow yourself to feel it, even if you know exactly why. At the end of the day, we are all human and denying it is cruel to your emotional well being.
When I’m having a day when I’m feeling off, I usually need some space to be on my own in peace and quiet. Once I’ve had an hour to myself to cool off, watch some YouTube videos and relax, I return to my old self most of the time.
At the end of the day, it’s healthier to let those negative and sometimes toxic feelings flow out of you safely so that you can eventually move on and accept that it is what it is.
Don’t Hold Back
If you do anything, don’t hold back what you’re feeling. No matter how long it takes, what you’ll find eventually is everything must come out.
Even the most patient and tolerant people have their limits, you might not see it but it’s there. With no way to channel out those emotions, you can really damage your mental health to a point where it does come out, but all in one burst.
Holding it all back could even bring you down to a critical point, where all your problems feel like they roll into one and just becomes too much. At this point, you could have uncontrollable emotions such as becoming depressed or even uncontrollable anger.
So if one day makes you feel like crying, then just cry it out. I know this gives me some relief when things become overwhelming, but it’s better than holding it in.
Don’t Forget to Look After Yourself
However things pan out, remember to take care of yourself first where ever you can. This means saying no to extra hours at work that you don’t want, giving yourself the occasional treat or indulgence and choosing things that make you happy sometimes.
Life is inevitably going to be full of many emotions, that’s just the nature of being human. It’s just learning to balance those emotions with actions that can also help our self growth.