If there is something I simultaneous learnt and am still learning about, it’s communication.
Now I mean to say this in regards to situations where it is safe and beneficial for you to speak up. If it’s something that makes you feel uncomfortable, doesn’t work with you or you can’t just stand and watch it happen, learning to speak up can be the hardest thing.
I was a quiet kid and my environment never challenged me to grow and speak for myself. When I first had the opportunity to speak for myself, such as in my first jobs or when leaving home, it was very difficult at first.
The concerns are usually:
- What if I say something wrong?
- What if I do something wrong?
- What if that embarrasses me?
- What if they don’t like me?
- What should I even do?
And the right answer is that there is no right answer.
What you learn, and what I’ve learnt is life gives you the freedom to say anything you want or need to say.
That can be why it’s so hard to figure it out. But as long as what you do makes sense in the context, and how you approach it is grounded while gauging what other people might be thinking, you should never have to worry about the reason you do things your way.
There is no correct way to be yourself. And chances are, we are all thinking about ourselves with just as much scrutiny too. So shine!
“Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave”Sara Bareilles
If you ever worry, just listen to Sara Bareilles’ ‘Brave’. This song never fails to cheer me up and make me feel momentarily confident.